I've always wondered what possesses people to run around beating their chests for everyone else to see. You know the type, those that walk in the room listing off just why they are so awesome, usually without anything to back that up. You have the most obvious ones, who end up getting kicked squarely in the teeth and disappear in a sea of asshurt, and then the more subtle ones. The one trick ponies stuck repeating the same tired buzzwords or popular viewpoint at the time.
The most frustrating thing to me is why they seem so damn sure of themselves all the time. Not a shred of doubt in anything they do, even though they actually lack whatever cards they say they are holding. I think it's probably just much easier to shy away from real conflict and create a lie, one that over time will be a lie you'll believe, than to take a hard look into a mirror. Any person seriously accomplishing anything is sure to be doing it by working through their fear or shortcomings. Dealing with discomfort and sometimes all out failure, to achieve an end goal.
When I was attacked earlier this year, I'm not embarrassed to tell anyone that I was afraid. (Due to legal reasons and too much personal story, I'm not outlining the details of this incident here.) It was scary and uncomfortable to deal with, but I learned a lot of things from it. I didn't back down for fear, and I won't later this year when I have to face the same shit, but in a courtroom. And by the way, this is not some great accomplishment or some testament to strength or whatever. It's seeing fear for what it is, as a tool I can use. This incident is really no different than my doubts and fears about doing well in school, starting a new job, or taking a new step in a relationship. If I don't feel nervous or scared, I'm not accomplishing anything. If I'm not second guessing myself, or seeking out new things to test out, I'm not really living in my opinion.
So all these people with the excess confidence, strutting around with all their talk about handling crazy situations like pros, and having the perfect answers to theoretical scenarios, they really just yell the loudest to cover up the lack of action on their part. Real progress doesn't require endorsement from your peers.
So I guess my question is this: Is your confidence truly built on a tested foundation, or are you just deceiving yourself?