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So, You're A Social Reject from Dark Enlightenment's blog

If you're like me there is a situational difference to how you can interact with people.

For me, I find it easier to talk with anyone if i have a "set reason" to talk to them. In my job I regularly talk to gorgeous people so far out of my league regularly. I can even make them laugh. Like the most apt, socially fluent, and charismatic person to ever exist. 

 It's approached like a role and my role is to temporarily help them to feel at ease during our transaction. They need to know they trust me and talk away if they so please.  And then the transaction ends and you reset. 


The transition to the bar and club scene is non-existant. The purpose is not there. You have to come up with it. You have to impress why it is this person should talk to you. Thus the charismatic ability never takes hold.  Instead it comes out like the stereotypical nerd.  No charisma. No confidence.  All the "at work ability" erodes into an overanalytical mess.  The simple ability to read a person, like at work, also evaporates.  It becomes so objective driven, there is no ability to be comfortable. You're not confident because forced socialization to achieve a desired result is so mission oriented.

This may crystallize into an ingrained fear of rejection. Drawing on failed attempts and blockages within personality. 

It can also be an excuse.

It's an isolated world of prostitutes for most.


Until someone else wants to approach the closed off uncomfortable body language wallflower, your best bet is to have the "ice-breaker" removed from necessity. 


Thank you internet.


There's probably AutisticDating.com or some shit like that.  A compatible environment where you can meet people you might like and establish a relationship over the internet.  And then transition it to real life without fear of rejection.

You can write, rewrite, and word it just right and know it's only words on a page if you fail. You can say it with some degree of anonymity, and if that fails move on to the next. You talk, and then eventually blah blah blah, go Match.com.

You can even refine it down.  Say you want a "satanist" you can go on Facebook and join regional groups or establish a relationship with someone you come across and decide you can trust.

And it works time and time again for even the most socially awkward. Anyone can do it.

From an evolutionary standpoint, most would see the mammalian writing on the wall.  You are a creature that may not be meant for socialization. "Outcasts" (caste?) are specimens not meant to contribute to the species.  They are the animal that doesn't know how to fuck.  And any other species a low caste specimen sucks its way through life and then dies.

 If only they had computers.

From an editorial point of view, needing online to meet people seems like an admission you can't make it the way your mammal ass was suppose to. The stigma one places on alternatives (prostitutes, dating sites) works its way into pride. Another internal restriction.

In any case, there is no reason why anyone should be alone, apathetic, and miserable unless they choose to be.


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Anna
Jun 20
There is really no difference whether you're dating someone online or at the pub. Online conversation is merely a starting point. Sooner or later, you will have to meet that person face to face. Then your true personality will come out. That is if you want to initiate any deeper relationship. If all you want are nerdy forum discussions about philosophical issues, you can stay anonymous. Although, the internet gives you an opportunity to spend more time forming your posts, usually people give away a bit of their personality and, surely, the level of their intelligence. I don't think real people are that much different from their online personas.There is really no difference whether you're dating someone online or at the pub. Online conversation is merely a starting point. Sooner or later, you will have to meet that person face to face. Then ...See more
T. Volt
Jun 21
These days, being a fully functioning adult means being an outcast, especially if you're a man.
T. Volt
Jun 23
A social reject by who's standards? Reproduction? Who fucking cares! I'm not my offspring, and ultimately they would lead their own lives. Having a woman? I'd rather have my wallet and bank account instead. Being a Satanist I can see clearly that people have a botched sense of morality, and don't hold shit to their word most of the time. Why the fuck would I want to bow to those standards?! You can be alone, apathetic, but that doesn't mean miserable. It just means you have nothing in common with most fat spoiled retarded people who just want to cause problems anyway. Fuck 'em!A social reject by who's standards? Reproduction? Who fucking cares! I'm not my offspring, and ultimately they would lead their own lives. Having a woman? I'd rather have my wallet and bank account in...See more
AK Mod
Jun 29
Our age bracket is an interesting one. Most of us grew up without the internet in our homes and came of age just as it was becoming common place. As it stands now it is not at all uncommon for a four year old to navigate YouTube. I suspect this next generation won't distinguish as sharply between cyber-space / meat-space as we have been inclined to. Indeed, my opinion of it has changed greatly as the novelty wore off and it (the internet) became more pervasive and I don't see as much of a difference as I once did. The world has become much smaller and time less of a factor to me as a result.Our age bracket is an interesting one. Most of us grew up without the internet in our homes and came of age just as it was becoming common place. As it stands now it is not at all uncommon for a four ...See more
Anna
Jun 29
Really? My relationship with a former friend ended once he concluded his computer was more interesting than me. Perhaps, he was right. Only he had the same shitty attitude to his girlfriends. He chatted with them for months but whenever they decided to meet face to face, each of the girls broke up with him. The virtual communication is merely a start.Really? My relationship with a former friend ended once he concluded his computer was more interesting than me. Perhaps, he was right. Only he had the same shitty attitude to his girlfriends. He chatt...See more
AK Mod
Jun 29
Yeah, but he's an offy anyway. As is evidenced by his being friends with a typing cat in the first place.
Duff666 Member
Jun 30
T.Volt only needs his ferrets. Lol
Anna
Jun 30
AK has a ferret. He's so damn cute.
AK Mod
Jun 30
:( sadly my Gizzy-bobbins died last year.
Anna
Jun 30
Oh I'm sorry. :(
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