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Anna
Anna Aug 6
It's said any satisfying relationship is built on mutual trust. Do you find it easy to trust others or are you rather suspicious of other people? Is it hard to earn your trust?

P.S. I hope I didn't post this topic before.

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Ba Adil
Ba Adil Aug 6
You'd better learn to fly cause they're gonna point you up at the sky! The more that you want it the more that you need it I know that you will be by my side! In the heat of the moment when the thunder and lightening come I know that you would be by my side!

P.S. Trust is the most silent destroyer.

Wolfie
Wolfie Aug 6
When it comes to complete strangers, I'm suspicious, because I have nothing on which to base my trust.


If someone is a stranger to me but not to my friends or family, I'll generally give them the benefit of the doubt, but only with small matters, like handing them the key to my car so they can get something out of the trunk. (The likelihood they'll steal the car is pretty remote since I know who I gave the key to.)


When it comes to secrets, I only share them on a need to know basis, and there are very few instances when someone has a need to know.


As for people I only know online: It generally doesn't occur to me to assume malicious intent, but it also doesn't occur to me to share anything sensitive. It seems like every other day I have someone trying to phish or spoof me via email. Not to mention the goofy sockpuppetry on this particular site.


Hoodlum88
Hoodlum88 Aug 6
Trust is realised through the validation it's use is of value. While utterly paranoid to "trust no one", it is wise to do that before you know who they really are.

On a website like this trust goes for naught. Less so on a social media with less anonymity. Facebook tries for authenticity. Plucking through the incongruities yourself is long.

It depends on the environment you trust in and the goals of the individual. Plenty of homeless tramps out there.  And being a feral animal can end up at sixes and sevens.  
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Anna
Anna Aug 6
I find it hard to trust strangers. I'm slightly paranoid. Or maybe I'm trying to be realistic. For example, there is this old saying here: If you want to turn someone into your enemy, lend them money. That means that if you lend someone money, they will like you but when you try to get it back, they will hate you. I usually refuse to lend people money. Unless it's such a small sum that I won't regret it if I lose it. So then I might give in to feel better about myself.


I wouldn't get into a stranger's car but that applies to men only. Seriously, it creeps me out when some guy offers to give me a lift, even if I've seen him before or he's from my neighborhood. That doesn't apply to the guys I know very well. I'm also more inclined to trust women.


I don't have problems trusting friends and family members. For example, my friend, whom I call my auntie and who was also my mom's friend, has a key to my home so that she can take care of the cat if I'm away.


As far as the people online go, I tell them only what I wouldn't mind the general public to hear. That applies also to the so-called friends, i.e., the people you add here, on Facebook or any other social network. Not that I have oh so many secrets. I prefer genuine self-expression to the role playing. But there is the info you shouldn't reveal to avoid unnecessary headaches later.

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Wolfie
Wolfie Aug 6
Fortunately everyone I know has credit cards, so they never need to borrow money from me. 


I would be very disinclined to get into a car with a stranger. I don't even like to use Uber. As for trusting women more than men - I used to, but don't any longer, because I wised up to the fact that a woman with a gun is just as dangerous as a man with a gun, and women can become drug addicts as easily as men can.


Regarding people online, the craziest thing I ever did was drive a thousand miles to hang out with someone for the weekend. But he and I had practically done Vulcan mind melds via keyboard for months. The conversations were so deep and wide, you would think we were two gay guys falling in love (we weren't).




Cornelius Coburn
Trust no one. Expect the unexpected, and be especially wary of the exceptionally cunning.
darkravenus666
Trust no one 
donot
donot Sep 16
Trust no one. 
Phil_Lopian
Phil_Lopian Sep 16
No one trusts.


Why?

donot
donot Sep 16
Because you're a f. insane asylum.
Phil_Lopian
Phil_Lopian Sep 16

Quote from donot Because you're a f. insane asylum.
They say that there is a fine line between insanity and genius. I've crossed that line. 
donot
donot Sep 16
Frankly I don't count you as genius but rather as insane.
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Phil_Lopian
Phil_Lopian Sep 16

Quote from donot Frankly I don't count you as genius but rather as insane.
I didn't say what side I crossed into.
donot
donot Sep 16
you could have crossed both sides, I do not see the difference. A genius seems like insane in a way. 
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Dantalion
Dantalion Sep 17
In my relationships, complete trust would take a month or so to develop, but once that threshold is reached there’s been complete unfettered trust in all things. I have no problem with my girlfriends hanging out with their guy friends as long as they make time for me.
donot
donot Sep 18
Trust is gained in the first five seconds. Then it's just condescension. 


What to tell you about trust, it's a lost game. Trust the gods? Trust fate? In the end you are on your own, believing you have done it all right. You have tried to avoid what you don't want to happen, but in the end fate wins, there is no escape.

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